When you approach her
Women can be…interesting to try and understand, right? You may think you’ve got it all together. You may have the looks, the build, the right clothes, the job, drive a cool car designed to be a babe magnet. You can be charming and have the easygoing ability to chat with strangers. But sometimes, even after you get a girl’s phone number are you still going home alone and feeling a little like a dud even though it certainly does seem like you’ve got it all? One thing to remember, before you head out to a bar or social gathering or to the mall to go shopping or even to work, is women just naturally like emotions. Keep that in mind as you read on and think about how to approach a girl.
We may not exactly like all that mushy gushy junk, but there it is. If you learn to “act naturally” and learn how to reach woman’s emotions, you will become much more attractive to women. It’s a typical girl thing. Learning how to approach a girl means you have to know about her thinking process, and the way her heart works, and how to open it. These can seem like incredibly intricate subjects to learn, but it’s not that hard, if you remember one important rule—keep the focus on what she likes, not what you want. Males are not typically well known for putting the subject of emotions on the front burner, or even caring much about all that junk. The reality is, however, that’s what women like. So, if you act like you do like emotions and care about the “precious” and “cute” things in life, you will stand a better chance of success in getting past just getting her phone number but not a date.
What women love
How do you court a girl and deliver your lines about the funny little stories girls and women love with confidence? First, try thinking about and how you can eventually tell any kind of a story, really, that has some sort of an emotional attraction or pull. Think about stuff you noticed just in your daily life. Just to give you an idea of what to keep an eye out for, here’s a few ideas. Perhaps, walking down the street in front of your home, did you come across a little girl standing in the middle of the sidewalk right in front of you. So naturally, you would ask, “Hey why are you crying?” And then the little girl tells you how she lost her doll. And a woman would like this story even better if you stopped and helped the little girl find it. (Again, this is just hypothetical, just to give you an idea how the kinds of stories women you talk to might like.) Or, how about this? Again, you are walking down your street and hear a pitiful meow, look up and there is a cat stuck high up in a tree. So, even though you are on your way to work, you decide to put all that on hold, climb the tree and rescue the cat. Women love this.
Don’t boost your confidence with her
Little, seemingly unimportant stories like these will get her heartstrings thrumming and she’ll be ready to sympathetically to more from you. But now that you’ve got her attention, you only have a brief timeframe in which to take the conversation to the next level. Don’t forget how you got her attention in the first place. You seduce a girl by appealing to her emotions. Think about that a moment. You provided an emotional magnet and her emotional compass needle is now pointing right at you. Now is not the time to change the subject. Her attention is right on you now; it’s possible you could get a bit of a case of stage fright at this point. Perhaps she’s really beautiful; she really just takes your breath away. If you get nervous, it can be tempting to fall back on a less emotionally charged subject—how well you are doing in your career, the great deal you just got on a new car, etc. Those are the things that definitely help boost your confidence when talking to your male buddies.
The ball is in her court
But if you are talking to a pretty girl or a beautiful and sophisticated woman, watch out. Her eyes may start to wander and land on another guy if you shift gears and start trying to impress her instead of court her. When you are courting, the ball, so to speak, is definitely in her court. If you’ve got her attention and she’s listening to you with undivided attention, you’ve received a precious gift. Try thinking of yourself as a very lucky man instead of a stranger passing the time by making small talk. Instead of your new car, or problems at your job, or whatever, the subject is her. If, for example, you’ve just told her a cute story, watch her reactions. If her face lights up and laughter tinkles like soft rain on a wind chime, those are probably pretty good signals you are on the right track. Now is the time to declare you knew stuff like that was important to her. Why? Just because she has a very intelligent light in her eye. Or something like that. Compliments are always going to get her attention and thinking you may be an interesting person. But don’t overdo; women also are equipped with amazingly accurate baloney detectors. If any of your “compliments” ring false, she’ll start to pull away, maybe even frown or roll her eyes at the ceiling.